Boyfriend Material

  • I want to make him a better sandwich than I did for the last guy.
  • I want to debate with him.
  • I want a leader, not a follower.
  • When bad things are happening, I don’t want him to pray, “Make it stop.” I want him to pray, “God, your will be done.”
  • He doesn’t have to say sorry every time he makes a mistake, I just want to know he’s trying to do the right thing.
  • I want to study and learn new things with him.
  • When I’m picking fights and being cranky, when I’m running away from my problems, when I’m being hypocritical, when I’m being impulsive, when I’m making poor choices, I want him to hold my hand, kiss me and say,  one of these things: a) “Please have a nap.” b)”Please eat something.” c)”You’re crazy. I love you. Please go pray. You’ll feel better.”
  • When I make a mistake, fail or get myself into trouble, I don’t want him to tell me how much I’ve screwed up. I want him to smile, say I’m proud of you and tell me to try again.
  • When I succeed, I want him to do the exact same thing.
  • I want to stay up late telling funny stories.
  • I want him to be brave enough to do the right thing even if it’s hard and unpopular.
  • I want him to know when to fight and when to back down. I want to know what he stands for. Not what he’s against.
  • When we kiss and I get carried away, I want him to say, “We’re waiting till we get married, remember?” And if I don’t listen the first time, I want him to make me stand in the corner till I cool down.
  • I’ll do the same to him.
  • I want him to respect women. I want him to see them as equal, not lesser than. Not as servants or sex slaves but mothers, daughters, and sisters. I want him to talk to them with kindness.
  • I want him to be good at conflict resolution.
  • I won’t be able to make him happy every day, but I want to make him happy most days.
  • I want to see him do something he’s really good at.
  • I want to get in trouble with him. Not, like, call-the-police trouble. Trouble for having too much fun or laughing too loud.
  • When he fails, I want to be the person who sends him the Positive Possum meme that tells him he can do the thing! And then bake him processed food because I can’t cook (but I can read instructions on a box!)
  • I want him to stick up for me when someone talks behind my back. I will stick up for him, too.
  • I want to go out. I don’t want to Netflix and Chill.
  • I want him to respect my boundaries. Maybe he’ll be upset at first but he’ll come around and we will carry on. He won’t quit or give up.
  • I want him to say kind things about people.
  • I want him to hold my hand at church.
  • When he’s mad at me, I want him to come to me. Not three or four other people.
  • I want to kiss him in a car, on a patio, by a tree, near graffiti, on a bridge, in a studio (where art is made), in a kitchen, on a floor, by a fan or an air conditioner, and while a cat or dog is watching.
  • I want to get lost together and call it an adventure.
  • He doesn’t have to be perfect. He doesn’t have to buy me fancy things. But I want to be a priority. Not his last minute plan.