Text My Butt

I am thankful for “The 10th Kingdom.” It’s a miniseries that aired on A & E in 2000. The story follows a girl and her father who get lost in this world of fairy tales. They have all these obstacles but basically, they are trying to get back home to New York but things get complicated. It’s cheezy and goofy but imaginative and I love it. It reminds me of my childhood and it’s a total indulgence.

I am thankful for coffee and training. I’m thankful for warm hellos and “Welcome backs” and “Happy to be backs” and “Couldn’t stay away from us, could you?” and sheepish smiles with nods of agreements. I’m thankful for good trainers who are so gracious when I lost track of time. She took us on a tour of the store and we oo’d and aw’d at all the eclectic stuff London Drugs carries.

I’m thankful for play-readings with friends. Even if the play didn’t make sense and we were all confused at the end.

I’m thankful for prayer with a friend. We prayed for specific requests but also carved out time to pray for each other. It was encouraging for many reasons and we both left agreeing that it made our days.

This is probably going to come out a little random and unnecessarily long-winded (but I’m like that).

I’m not the strongest when it comes to relationship-building, especially with other Christians. Many of them find me frustrating and vice versa. However, it’s something that I want to get better at. God commands us to love one another. This is easier said than done, especially when there’s conflict. People get hurt and trust is broken. Social media furthers this problem because there’s added components that make things even more complicated…

I really want to have healthy friendships and relationships both online and off. To me, this looks like a healthy give-and-take, being vulnerable with each other, not being judgmental, clique-free, trustworthy, and lots of laughter. That’s the kind of friend I’d like to be and they are the qualities I look for in a friend, too.

I was reading about how Jesus sent his 12 disciples out and told them to prepare themselves for rejection. He’s tells them not to hold onto it. In fact, they are supposed to dust their feet off (which is a massive insult at the time) and walk away. There’s a debate about how to Christians should handle rejection. On the one hand God and Jesus are faithful to us when we are unfaithful. So shouldn’t we treat others the same? This is true and an indication of God’s mercy and character. He will leave the 99 to go after the lost sheep. However, that’s not the same thing as toiling over people who reject us (I have a habit of holding on and trying to win people back who don’t really love or care about me. It’s not helpful and I get hurt more in the process. So I tend to dwell on these losses more). He calls to His disciples and they have to make the choice to accept but He doesn’t accept passive aggressive behaviour and calls out his disciples often when they start grumbling. Also, when a town rejected him, personally, and told him to leave, He just kept going and moved on. I think one of the main reasons He was able to do that with so much decorum is because He knew who He belonged to and how full of justice His father in heaven is. So I decided to take a page from Jesus’s book and let go of some people (online, at least).

I hope the people I chose to let go of understand that I don’t hate them but would prefer we rebuild trust and genuine connection offline first. There’s been a breakdown of communication and some of the behaviour was petty and left me really confused. I recognize I’m not perfect in this and have made mistakes, too, but it was getting a little out of hand and very passive aggressive. We don’t have to like each other but I hope respect and honesty is something we can attempt to do. It didn’t feel great to lose people online but it didn’t feel right to keep them either. Some people will likely be mad and I understand but I hope it allows us to talk about it in the open, face-to-face.

This may sound even odder but it’s usually the people I’ve butt heads with the most that I become closest with. The first part is a bit rough but things get better, especially when we both put in the effort to try.

That was a longer explanation than I intended it to be (I’m probably taking this way too seriously) but I hope it clarifies things for those to whom it applies.

And now I leave you with my final Thankful Thing of the Day.

I’m thankful for my sister, Arden. She told me how her boss’s daughter will sometimes text her from her boss’s phone and say things like, “Text my butt.” It made me laugh so hard because this is what Arden was like when she was little: hilarious, entertaining, charming and a bit deviant. She’s basically having a conversation with her younger self. When she told me that story, it literally filled me with delight.